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The 8 golden rules of sharing a home

How to get on with your flatmates in a rented house share and avoid any arguments over loo roll, teabags and shower times.

Words by: Ellie Isaac

Senior Editor

Renting often involves moving in with people you’ve never lived with before, whether it's your friends, a partner or total strangers.

Hopefully it’s the start of a fun house-sharing adventure, but there are likely to be tricky moments too. You’ll be experiencing your housemates' full range of habits and quirks after all.

Here are out tips to keep fall-outs and flare-ups to a minimum when you're sharing a rental home.

1. Set ground rules on day one

Or before you even move in.

It’s not the most exciting way to kick off a new life together, but it could be the one that keeps it going for longer.  

Your renting ground rules should cover all the things that will become very annoying very quickly.

Such as how long you’re allowed to leave dirty plates in the sink (clue: when mould begins to form, it’s gone too far) and whether the teabags are communal.

It might be if housemates are permitted to bring half the pub back for an after party on a work night, and so on.

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2. Draw up a cleaning rota

You can do this during the ground rules conversation for added entertainment.

It may seem a little over the top to rigidly schedule who’s cleaning the toilet, but you won’t be thinking that when you’re scrubbing it for the third week in a row.

Some people need a nudge when it comes to household chores and a rota leaves no room for argument or for resentment to fester.

Of course, they may not clean to your standards - not everyone will think to dust the lampshades - but it's definitely a whole lot better than nothing.

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3. Split up the bill burden

Just like cleaning, if bills aren’t discussed then the burden will fall on the most organised person.

Split the task of arranging the essential utilities between you.

Not only will this reduce the admin avalanche each of you has to deal with, it’s also handy to have your name and address on a utility bill for those moments you need to prove where you live.

In no particular order, the bills you are most likely to pay jointly are: 

  • gas and electric

  • water

  • phone and broadband

  • Council Tax

  • TV licence

The easiest way to cover them is to set up a joint account you all pay into equally.

If you’d rather not commit to a bank account, free apps such as Splitwise will track and divide costs for you.

Best of all, apps like this can send reminders to late-paying housemates, so you don’t need to have that awkward conversation face-to-face.

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4. Go big on the broadband

Talking of vital services, the more people in the house, the more broadband capacity you’ll need.

It's worth stretching to unlimited broadband with the fastest download speeds you can afford.

When you're all working from home on the same days, or trying to stream a different programme on Netflix on a Sunday morning hangover, you'll be glad you opted for the best broadband possible.

5. Work out what other costs you want to share

Unless you have outrageously expensive taste in toilet paper – anyone who insists on double quilted is on their own – it’s easier to share the cost of this very essential item.

So add that to your joint bills. The same goes for cleaning products.

You may want to include basic food and drink such as coffee, tea, bread and milk.

Or go the whole hog and do the weekly shop as a house. Again, you’ll need to make sure everybody is contributing equally when it comes to buying and cooking the food.

When you’re coming up with budgets, bear in mind that some of you will be earning more than others.

It’s important to consider everybody’s circumstances and not use the shared pot for luxuries. If you want a bottle of champagne to go with that quilted toilet paper, it should come out of your own pocket.  

6. Sync up your routines

Hanging outside the bathroom in your towel, anger building as the clock ticks by, is no way to start the day.

Get to know each other's daily routines so you can set up a staggered schedule, skip the stress and avoid everyone dashing to the shower at the same time.

For example, you could have your breakfast between 7am to 7.30am while your housemate showers, then swap.

7. Consideration is the key

If you had to boil down house-sharing into one thing, it’s about being thoughtful.

Regularly keeping someone awake, leaving them to tidy up after you, cook for you and sort your bills isn’t fair, unless you happen to be a one-year-old.

On the other hand, nobody is going to live exactly like you, so try to be tolerant of their habits, within reason.

And if something really bothers you, calmly address the issue rather than passive aggressively shouting to nobody in particular: "That’s the third dirty mug I’ve cleared from the lounge today. NONE OF THEM MINE."

8. Get out as much as possible

Even if you love your housemates, and even if you’re new in town and don’t know anybody else, create a separate social circle you can fall back on if it all gets a little intense at home. 

And when it comes to an end...

Tenants in a house share usually sign a joint tenancy agreement which means they have collective responsibility for paying the rent.

Until that agreement is legally ended, each housemate is liable for their portion of it.

So if things don’t work out what are your options? 

If you’re nearing the end of the contract you can wait until it finishes and leave without any liabilities. If you’d like to get out before then it’s a little trickier but still doable.

Finding a replacement your housemates and landlord are happy with is often the best way to extricate yourself. The new tenant will need to sign a new agreement, which doesn’t include you, with the remaining tenants.

Break clauses and rolling contracts

If that’s not possible you may be able to activate a break clause which many joint tenancy agreements include at the six-month mark. Everyone in the house will have to agree to this and leave, unless the remaining tenants negotiate a new contract with the landlord.  

If your fixed term contract has ended and become a rolling weekly or monthly contract (a joint periodic tenancy), you’re still required to give notice before leaving.

You don’t need your housemates’ agreement for this, but they’ll all have to move out when that notice period has finished or negotiate a new contract. 


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